When someone gets in trouble, think corrective or disciplinary actions, they tend to get very defensive. I find the best approach is to try to talk through what the expectations are, and demonstrate that I’m looking at the overall picture, not isolated incidents. I also do this with my children. When I’m talking about honoring our elders, it is insufficient to constantly wait to be given tasks, they should anticipate need.
This is the principle, as people, we are engaged in helping our community, our family, and ourselves every day. Rather than waiting for needs to become acute, it’s better to plan ahead and be addressing needs when they are relatively minor. Just like an ounce of prevention versus a pound of cure.