As a person, I need support. I find it by committing myself to doing good things that other people would naturally join in with. I don’t ask for others to help, I just go, and if they’re willing they’ll come along. If I manage them, I tell them my intent and have them figure out how they will help get there. There are other relationships, like marriage, where we jointly develop intent. It’s very easy. I get the validation I need because my product is good, and others get their validation because they helped.
I do not understand the kids these days. I sort of kid because I am still a kid, sort of. Their validation seems to come from causes or ideology. Why can’t they be satisfied with changing the fluids on a tractor? It reminds me that there’s an evil intent in the world that demands everyone around to become mediocre so that every can receive validation. Or that everyone is so individual that everyone is homogeneous. That thinking is really common today, and it’s disgusting.
The path to being an individual is to do something. Something good. So others can and will want to be involved. It doesn’t have to be big, is just has to be constructive. We’ve lost all sense of real as we hysterically validation. And, that’s the problem. Validation is a result of reality. As you get close to real, you get validation. If you get away from real, you lose validation.
Guess what? It’s a principle.